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Happy 2023!

We’re 12 days into a new year. What’s 2023 feel and look like in your life?

My 2023 is already giving me a message I didn’t want to hear this week.

SLOW down and OFFER yourself FREEDOM TODAY and everyday. Be S.O.F.T. AF with yourself by any means necessary, boo!!!! Remember the commitment you made to yourself on New Year’s Day about being S.O.F.T. AF with yourself in your life, relationships, and career? Why are you putting pressure on yourself to add more things to your to-do list in your business?

I resisted this message because I got caught up in what I thought I should be doing in my business after watching peers roll out their 2023 programs and offers. I got caught up in comparing myself to others. I forgot all about my heart-centered approach of Thriving Mindfully that has guided me for the past 30+ years.

YES I FORGOT ABOUT IT because I allowed my mind to get caught up in comparing myself to others which never works and always creates pressure and stress I don’t deserve. HAVE YOU EVER DONE THAT?

On Wednesday morning, I got up early to go walking with my soul sistalove and fellow Howard University Law alumna, Tonya. As we walked and talked, I found myself sharing what Spirit and my loving + wise + well ancestors have been calling me to do during this Winter season. I told Tonya I needed to press the reset button on my 2023 and recommit to my S.O.F.T. AF practice because I am experiencing a new chapter of emotional awareness and maturity as a 58 year old. In astrology, my new chapter is called the second Saturn Return.

My second Saturn Return is calling me to slow down, pay attention, and be open to change in how I show up in my life, relationships, career, and business. It is asking me to explore how I can begin to walk out my calling as a wise woman (elder). It is inviting me to feel and examine all of my feelings. It is also asking me to strengthen my TRUST in Spirit, my loving + wise + well ancestors, and myself.

Honestly speaking, some of these things are scary and feel like they will be messy at times. I know they will bring me into a place of unknown. And it is the unknown that has parts of me — my Inner Critic and Chief Operating Officer archetypes — freaking out some. Why? Because it means I will have to surrender and lose control.

There it is … the C-WORD. CONTROL. Loss of control triggers my Inner Critic and Chief Operating Office archetypes. Together, they are control freak powerhouses who can get so loud in my mind with comparison, overdoing, and overachieving that they create the pressure to perform which gives birth to stress. They are the ones who refuse to SLOW down. They want no part of my S.O.F.T. AF reset.

In the midst of their resistance, I was able to claim and celebrate three blessings that have guided me back to my commitment to be S.O.F.T. AF this winter.

MY 3 BLESSINGS

Blessing #1 is rooted in my birthright of mindfulness and relationship with my inner self, Spirit, and the loving + wise + well ancestors. Over the past 30+ years, I have chosen to slow down and pay attention to what’s happening inside and outside of me. That choice represents me claiming and practicing my birthright of mindfulness. When I practice it, I have been able to know and understand myself from the insight out. It is a lifelong journey of self-discovery that happens each time I SLOW DOWN and OFFER myself FREEDOM TODAY and everyday. The FREEDOM gives birth to clarity that helps me make a healthier choice like pressing the reset button on my 2023 commitment to be S.O.F.T. AF with myself.

Blessing #2 is moving my body when I feel pressure and stress. Walking with my soulsistalove Tonya in the cold weather this week helped shake up and release some of the pressure and stress I was feeling in my mind and body.

Blessing #3 is making myself vulnerable in a safe community. Being able to share what I was feeling with my soul sistalove Tonya during our walk really helped me gain clarity and support. I also shared my feelings with my soul brothalove and accountability partner Meico during our dinner. Having a community of chosen folks I can talk to and share things gives me support and space to speak my TRUTH.

If you want to hear more about my S.O.F.T. AF journey and how I am using it to embrace being 58, tune into the BRAND NEW Thriving Mindfully Podcast Season 6.

The first episode focuses on trusting and nurturing yourself during the winter with mindful self-care that is rooted in traditional Chinese Medicine, astrology, and numerology.

LISTEN HERE.

SPECIAL INVITATION FOR FOLKS IN THE DC/MD/VA

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You are an AMAZING and FANTABULOUS human BE-ing, not a human doing.

I am here to celebrate with you that you are a unique being with a unique path.

You also have a unique flow.

Your unique flow is your HUMAN DESIGN.

Human Design is a self-IN-powerment that shows you where and how to access your body’s wisdom and awareness.

Human Design marries ancient wisdom systems including the African (Kemetian/Egyptian) science of astrology, the Chinese I Ching, the Hindu chakra system, and the Jewish Kabbalah along with quantum physics.

If you’re interested in learning more, join me for the S.O.F.T. AF December Circle: Understanding Yourself with Ancestral Medicine and Human Design on December 10th at 1-2:30 PM ET OR December 14th at 8-9:30 PM ET, sign up here ($33).

Welcome to December!

It’s been a minute since I last wrote.

I woke up several days in a row feeling out of sorts in early October. Those feelings were calling me to come home to myself. To take a deep dive into expanding how I understand myself. Ever felt this way?

My journal became sacred space for me to share my feelings. Words poured onto the pages of my journal that reminded me of poetry I had written in the past. I went online to my blog and read some of it. I also started reading poetry in my mindful creativity memoir, That Which Awakens Me (available on Amazon — go here to learn more about the book).

In reading my poems, I was able to get more grounded and made a decision to reach out to my therapist, coach, accountability and prayer partner, and sacred community for support.

As the weeks passed by, I started receiving messages from my ancestors in my journaling and artwork. They were delivering HUGE downloads of ancestral medicine that were inviting me to expand my understanding of self. So I sought support from an ancestral healing coach who helped me gain clarity and connect with my loving, wise, and well ancestors.

My ancestral medicine work helped me befriend my inner critic Broomie (a/k/a Broomhilda) and begin to face my fear of not being relevant as a 57 year old woman. It also brought me back to my human design, a powerful self-IN-powerment tool I have used to deepen my understanding, acceptance, and love of self.

Here’s the blessing. I was able to incorporate my ancestral medicine reflections and human design work into several Thriving Mindfully Podcast episodes and the Thriving Mindfully Academy’s Fall Virtual Retreat and monthly mindful self-care classes in late October and November.

Check out the Thriving Mindfully Podcast episodes here. 

Watch the video below to learn about my human design journey and work as a human design doula.

Here’s what I know for sure about understanding yourself.
 

• Understanding yourself helps you love, accept, and nurture the REAL YOU.
• Understanding yourself is a lifelong self-discovery process that reveals your strengths, weaknesses, fears, and everything in between.
• Understanding yourself can get messy and even scary when you come face-to-face with your fears and any fears you have inherited from your ancestors. That’s why it’s important to be S.O.F.T. As Fuck with yourself.

S.O.F.T. As Fuck means you SLOW down and OFFER yourself FREEDOM TODAY and every day. That FREEDOM is loving kindness, compassion, nonjudgmement, patience, and forgiveness.
 

That FREEDOM is also ancestral medicine.
 

You gain access to your ancestral medicine when you call on your loving, wise, and well ancestors for support. Ancestral medicine is wisdom you can use as guidance in your life.

When you marry your understanding of self with ancestral medicine and human design, an IN-powerment tool, you become more grounded and are able to make better choices, informed decisions, and flow with greater ease.

As you wrap up 2022 and prepare for 2023, join me for the S.O.F.T. As Fuck December Circle: Understanding Yourself with Ancestral Medicine and Human Design on December 10th at 1-2:30 PM ET or 14th at 8-9:30 PM ET (virtual). 

REGISTER HERE FOR THE S.O.F.T. AF DECEMBER CIRCLES.

During the 90-minute event, you’ll:

• Reflect on and journal about who you were in 2022 and the REAL YOU;
• Identify and journal about your fears;
• Learn about ancestral medicine, the fundamentals of human design, and how they can help you understand yourself and befriend your fears;
• Participate in an ancestral medicine meditation; and
• Create an action plan that includes intention setting, steps you can take in the next 30-90 days, accountability, and self-celebration.

SIGN UP HERE FOR THE S.O.F.T. AF DECEMBER CIRCLES.

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While I was leading the S.O.F.T. As Fuck Fall Circle on September 28th, I asked folks when’s the last time they slowed down, reflected on their growth, and celebrated their efforts. Most hadn’t taken the time to reflect and celebrate. That’s why I recorded a special video about the power of being S.O.F.T. with yourself and how it helps you pay attention to and celebrate your small, medium, and big wins. Clink on the video below to hear what I had to say. 

Drop me a line and let me know how you are celebrating your small, medium, and big wins.

FYI: I am leading the final S.O.F.T. As Fuck Fall Circle on Saturday, October 1st at 2-3 PM ET. You are invited to join me.

RESERVE SERVE YOUR SEAT ($33): https://anandaleeke.com/soft

A replay video will be made available if you are unable to attend the live session. 

Happy First Day of Autumn and Libra Season!

It’s the start of a new season.

It is a harvest season of celebration filled with Libra energy that encourages you to come home to yourself by SLOWING down and OFFERING yourself FREEDOM TODAY and every day.

WATCH THE VIDEO FOR MY SPECIAL MESSAGE TO YOU.

If you’re interested in celebrating the Autumn Equinox with softness, click the link to sign up for tonight’s S.O.F.T. As Fuck Fall Circle at 8-9 PM ET: https://anandaleeke.com/soft.

FYI: I am leading the S.O.F.T. As Fuck Fall Circle on September 28th at 8-9 PM ET and October 1st at 2-3 PM ET.

See you in the Circle!

What happens inside of yourself — your body and mind when you think about being VULNERABLE?

Do you shy away from being VULNERABLE with yourself because society, family, friends, colleagues, mentors, etc. tell you it is a sign of WEAKNESS?

This morning I wrote about my vulnerability journey and what’s gotten in my way of being S.O.F.T. and VULNERABLE with myself. Watch the video below to hear what I wrote and felt about being vulnerable.

FYI: S.O.F.T. is a mindfulness tool I created and use in my own self-care practice and work with clients, companies, organizations, and communities. S.O.F.T. means SLOW down and OFFER yourself FREEDOM TODAY.

Join me for the S.O.F.T. As Fuck Fall Circle on September 22 at 8-9 PM ET, September 28 at 8-9 PM ET OR October 1 at 2-3 PM. 

RESERVE YOUR SEAT HERE: https://anandaleeke.com/soft

The autumn season is almost here. It kicks in on September 22nd. Before it begins, I invite you to give yourself the gift of a S.O.F.T. moment.

Watch the video below and learn how you can create your S.O.F.T. moment in a few seconds.

FYI: S.O.F.T. means SLOW down and OFFER yourself FREEDOM TODAY.

Join me for the S.O.F.T. As Fuck Fall Circle on September 22 at 8-9 PM ET, September 28 at 8-9 PM ET OR October 1 at 2-3 PM. Click the button below to get more details and reserve your seat. 

I’m super excited to lead mindful moment sessions and give a talk on “Digital Sister Wellness” during the Wonder Women Tech Virtual Summit on September 13-14! Grab your tickets and join me in this powerful summit that will Innovate, Empower, Ignite & Amplify!

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR TICKET.

Take a moment to watch my latest video below. There’s a message for you about being S.O.F.T Leave a comment and let me know if it resonates with you. 

Ready to be S.O.F.T.?

Join me for the S.O.F.T. As Fuck Fall Circle on September 22 at 8-9 PM ET, September 28 at 8-9 PM ET OR October 1 at 2-3 PM. Click the button below to get more details and reserve your seat. 

Watch the video for a special reminder to shine your light on yourself in a big way with your ancestors’ support. Deepen your understanding of shining your light with the Thriving Mindfully Podcast episodes. Click button below.

If you’re interested in receiving my coaching support in a safe community, join me in the Thriving Mindfully Academy. Click the button below. Email if you have questions: ananda@anandaleeke.com.