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Happy August! Check out my upcoming events.

Happy August All!

I am celebrating all of the creative women who inspire me this month. Many of these fabulous and fierce ladies will be featured during my August events. See the schedule below.  I hope you can join me online and offline.

Who are the creative women that inspire you?  Celebrate them this month.  Call or email them. Make time to see them in person. Tell your network about them. Sing their praises on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, and other social media sites. Support their creative efforts.

Ananda’s August Events:

1) August 15 @ 3:00 pm – 4:30 pm EST, Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial Library, 901 G Street, NW, Room 307 (Washingtoniana Division’s Program Room), Washington, DC (Please register for the event: http://sisterhoodtheblogaugustfocusgroup.eventbrite.com)

Join Ananda for Sisterhood the Blog’s focus group on how creative women use the web and social media to express, share, market, and sell their creativity and/or creative services. Come share your thoughts, insights, and lessons learned. Guest panelists include (more names will be added shortly):

Feel free to use the Twitter hashtag #STB10 to chat about the event and panelists.

If you are planning to participate, please complete an online survey about women and social media and release statement. The release statement gives Ananda permission to use information shared during the event as research for her book project Sisterhood, the Blog: Soundbytes from the 21st Century Women’s Online Revolution (December 2011).

2)August 16 @ 9:00 pm – 10:00 pm EST, Online Conference Call – To access the call, dial (424) 203-8400 and enter Participant Access Code 943041#.

Ananda is hosting a fabulous conversation on how creative women use the web and social media to express, share, market, and sell their creativity.  Guest panelists include:

Feel free to use the Twitter hashtag #STB10 to chat about the event and panelists.

If you are planning to participate, please complete an online survey about women and social media and release statement. The release statement gives Ananda permission to use information shared during the event as research for her book project Sisterhood, the Blog: Soundbytes from the 21st Century Women’s Online Revolution (December 2011).

3) August 17 @ 9:30 pm EST, BlogTalkRadio – http://www.blogtalkradio.com/anandaleeke/2010/08/18/blogatique-with-ananda-leeke

Tune into the launch of Ananda’s new BlogTalkRadio radio show Blogatique with Ananda Leeke. People. Passions. Politics.  The first episode features creative woman extraordinaire Toni Blackman.  Blackman is an artist, cultural ambassador, and social entrepreneur, based in Brooklyn, New York. Toni is the author of Inner-Course: A Plea for Real Love.  She is also the founder and director of Freestyle Union, a cipher workshop that uses free styling as a tool to encourage social responsibility. Her “I Rhyme Like A Girl” series is a Freestyle Union initiative. In addition, she is a former Echoing Green Fellow and fellow with the Open Society Institute. Visit Toni’s blog to learn more about her creative endeavors: http://toniblackman.wordpress.com. Follow her on Twitter: http://twitter.com/toniblackman.

4) August 18 @ 8:00 pm – 8:30 pm, MomTV – http://www.momtv.com/kg-yoga

Watch Ananda’s kg yoga life practices class on Mom TV on 8:00 pm EST.  The theme is celebrating Shakti, the creative feminine energy.

5) August 24 @ 9:30 pm, BlogTalkRadio – http://www.blogtalkradio.com/anandaleeke/2010/08/25/blogatique-with-ananda-leeke-people-passions-polit

Blogatique with Ananda Leeke. People. Passions. Politics. features Orlando W. Darden, Jr., owner of BodyFitDC (http://bodyfitdc.com) on the second episode of its first season. Darden is a Washington, DC-based certified personal and group fitness trainer,and running coach. He will discuss his life reinvention journey from a seasoned finance professional with 20+ years of experience and a MBA from New York University to a fitness entrepreneur who is passionate about helping people to become more fit and healthy,and improve their overall well-being. Follow Darden’s BodyFitDC on Twitter: http://twitter.com/bodyfitdc.

6) August 26 @ 9:00 pm, Sisterhood the Blog Radio, http://www.talkshoe.com/tc/42015

Tune in as Ananda continues the creative women and social media discussion with the following creative ladies:

Please register for the show: http://www.eventbrite.com/event/794878503.  This radio show is a follow up to an offline event held on August 15 in DC and conference call on August 16.

Feel free to use the Twitter hashtag #STB10 to chat about the event and panelists.

If you miss the live show on August 26, don’t fret. You will be able to listen to the audio posted on Sisterhood the Blog Radio’s web site: http://www.talkshoe.com/tc/42015.

If you are planning to participate, please complete an online survey about women and social media and release statement. The release statement gives Ananda permission to use information shared during the event as research for her book project Sisterhood, the Blog: Soundbytes from the 21st Century Women’s Online Revolution (December 2011).

7) August30 @ 9:00 pm, Sisterhood the Blog Radio, http://www.talkshoe.com/tc/42015

Listen to Ananda’s second discussion about  creative women and social media with the following creative ladies:

Please register for the show: http://www.eventbrite.com/event/814373814.

This radio show is a follow up to an offline event held on August 15 in DC and conference call on August 16.

Feel free to use the Twitter hashtag #STB10 to chat about the event and panelists.

If you miss the live show on August 30, don’t fret. You will be able to listen to the audio posted on Sisterhood the Blog Radio’s web site: http://www.talkshoe.com/tc/42015.

If you are planning to participate, please complete an online survey about women and social media and release statement. The release statement gives Ananda permission to use information shared during the event as research for her book project Sisterhood, the Blog: Soundbytes from the 21st Century Women’s Online Revolution (December 2011).

8) August 31 @ 9:30 pm, BlogTalkRadio – http://www.blogtalkradio.com/anandaleeke/2010/09/01/blogatique-with-ananda-leeke-shayne-lee-author-of-

Blogatique with Ananda Leeke: People. Passions. Politics. features Shayne Lee, author, sociologist, and Tulane University professor on the third episode of its first season. Lee will discuss his new book Erotic Revolutionaries: Black Women, Sexuality, and Popular Culture.

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What do you think about The Washington Post article: Successful, black and lonely & Helen Andrews’ upcoming memoir “Bitch Is the New Black,” a satirical look at successful young Black women living DC?

Happy Friday!

Here is some food for thought.

Last night, my dad J (a proud member of BAP Living!) talked to me about an article he read in The Washington Post. It was about Helen Andrews, the author of “Bitch Is the New Black,” a satirical memoir that explores how successful Black women in their twenties make their way in D.C. See below. He asked me to read it because he thought my thirtysomething Boho BAP character Karma Francois (who lives in D.C.) in my debut novel Love’s Troubadours – Karma: Book One (www.lovestroubadours.com) provides a different perspective on what it means to be a single Black woman in D.C. My perspective offers healing and tools that help Karma examine her life choices and understand what she has done and where she can go in the future by making better choices. J also said that my new book That Which Awakens Me: A Creative Woman’s Poetic Memoir of Self-Discovery offers a road map on how a single Black woman has lived and learned to navigate the ups and downs of life in D.C. over the past 20 years with compassion, connections to others, creativity, communities of support, and contemplative practices. I am still marinating on the article. When you have time, read it and tell me what you think. The article alsl has a video featuring Andrews talking about her new book. Check it out.

I started a discussion on my social networking site BAP Living.  Click here to read and/or participate in the lively discussion:  http://baplivingforbapsandebw.ning.com/profiles/blogs/what-do-you-think-about-w-post?commentId=2076799%3AComment%3A16601&xg_source=msg_com_blogpost.  Below are some of my comments from the discussion.

“I think it is important that Black women tell all of our experiences. We each have a story. We each have a way of living and navigating our life choices. We are not monolithic. I think there are so many representations of what it means to Black and female. We have to continue to share who we are with each other and live from a place of authenticity. I think Helen Andrews is telling her story the way she sees life as a Black woman. It does not reflect my life. It may reflect others’ lives. And that’s okay. I want Black women and girls to know we each have a different perspective …  Social media allows us to share our stories and life experiences in ways that illustrate the diversity of Black womanhood. So let’s keep telling our stories. Let’s keep writing books, blogs, poems, plays, and webisodes that say what we think is real and true for ourselves. There is room enough for all of our stories, experiences, opinions, and wisdom.”

“We give a lot of our energy and power away by spending so much time on what mainstream media is doing. We could channel that energy into creating our own content on the various platforms we now have available. You are so right about the stereotypes. And yes I agree with you that people don’t read things about the Black experience and understand there are a million different experiences out there. That’s where we have to stand up and tell our stories the way we see ourselves. Evey blog post, book, play, video, webisode, poem, photo, song, and piece of artwork we make that reflects our diverse experiences increases our power and presence. I have witnessed the power of transforming folks’ opinions about Black womanhood when folks who look like me and don’t look like me read my books and blogs, visit my social networking sites, hear me speak or teach in public, and watch my videos and webisodes. It is a slow change, but I see it. It may not hit the mainstream in the way that Andrews’ book and movie can, but it is my contribution. I just want to honor and support more of us making similar contributions to telling our stories.”

Also, check out the discussions on Urban Politico’s blog –  http://theurbanpolitico.blogspot.com/2009/12/bitch-is-new-black.html and Raintings of Creole Princess – http://creoleindc.typepad.com/rantings_of_a_creole_prin/2009/12/helena-andrews-bitch-is-the-new-black.html#tpe-action-posted-6a00d8341c5e0053ef0120a744967e970b.  They are rich!

Enjoy your weekend!

Peace, Creativity, Compassion, Gratitude, and Authentic Storytelling,

Ananda

Article copied from The Washington Post’s web site: http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/12/09/AR2….

Successful, black and lonely
D.C. author’s tale of young black women’s loneliness catches Hollywood’s ear

By DeNeen L. Brown
Washington Post Staff Writer
Thursday, December 10, 2009

Helena Andrews is 29, single, living in D.C., and might be the star of a black “Sex and the City” — stylish, beautiful and a writer desperately in search of love in the city.

Andrews’s life appears charmed: The film rights for her memoir, “Bitch Is the New Black,” a satirical look at successful young black women living in Washington, were purchased before the book was finished. Shonda Rhimes, the executive producer of “Grey’s Anatomy,” is set to produce the film and Andrews will write the screenplay.

When Andrews pitched the book, she described it as part “Bridget Jones’s Diary,” part “Sex and the City.” The book is to be published in June by Harper Collins.

“What I am trying to say about single black women in any urban environment is, you don’t know them as well as you think you do. They may not know themselves as well as they think they do,” Andrews says, seated at a table with a white tablecloth in a restaurant on U Street. Her appearance is flawless: She is wearing an ivory blazer and skinny jeans, her movie-star eyes glisten with shadow and her hair is cut in a fresh bob. Perfect. Image is everything. And it means nothing.

“The book was a time for me to step back and reflect,” to capture the internal dialogue and the dialogue with girlfriends who are “caught in a quarter-life crisis.” She is not talking about all young black women, but some. Revealing a story not oft told.

A lot of black women put up an exterior that says: “Everything is together. ‘I’m fine. Perfect. Don’t worry about me. Keep it moving.’ That is the trend,” Andrews says. “Put on new stilettos. Put on a mask of bitchiness.” But that image — prevalent in both the media and the workplace, Andrews believes — is one-dimensional.

“When people think about black women, they have only one adjective for us, which is ‘strong,’ ” Andrews says. “The girl you see walking down the street looks like she has it all together,” but she may not.

A journalist who has written for Politico and The Root, Andrews says her book attempts to reveal what’s behind the veneer. In a series of essays, Andrews documents the lives of so many young black women who appear to have everything: looks, charm, Ivy League degrees, great jobs. Closets packed full of fabulous clothes; fabulous condos in fabulous gentrified neighborhoods; fabulous vacations, fabulous friends. And yet they are lonely: Their lives are repetitive, desperate and empty. They are post-racial feminists who have come of age reaping the benefits of both the civil rights movement and the women’s movement, then asking quietly: What next?

“Gone are the [college] days when friends are an elevator ride away, dinner plans are made on the way to somebody’s hall, and Thursday is Friday or Friday is Thursday (who cares, you’ll figure it out in Philosophy C203),” Andrews writes. “Soon enough, the little old lady living in a shoe is you — and the rent is effin’ unbelievable, and nobody comes to visit because you’re too far from the Metro. Adulthood comes in little jigsaw pieces. Once the painstaking work of fitting them all together is done, the picture doesn’t look nearly as cool as it did on the box.”

Andrews writes about what it is like for a young, black woman dating in D.C., trying to find a mate who seems ever elusive. The futile rituals are familiar: the dressing up, the eager cab ride over to the party, the hold-your-breath as you walk in, scanning the room quickly for any looks returned. The mantra sounding in the back of your head: “So-and-so found a man last year at a party like this. Maybe tonight is my night.” Then one by one, the men prove to be disappointments and disappointing: married, uninteresting or uninterested.

The disappointment as you end up at the bar once again, committing straw violence in your drink (stirring the drink frantically and unconsciously).

Andrews writes the truth of those nights. The truth is for too many, they never work out. Not for Andrews and not for her friend, Gina, who is a prominent character in her life and in the book.

“For a lot of black women, especially young successful black women, we have a lot of boxes on our master plan list checked off,” Andrews says. “We think happiness should come immediately after that. But that is not always the case.”

Love is much too hard to find and when these women do, it may go all wrong because of issues that are too complicated for statistics, Andrews says. She is quick to say, “There are tons of black families who are healthy and good.” Even so, black women are more likely than white women to grow up poor or otherwise struggling financially; to be fatherless and to experience a myriad of other societal and/or familial dysfunctions. Ironically, the “issues” can also include being a “strong” woman: the can-do, opinionated type many black women become after growing up in a matriarchal household, the type with whom some men still just can’t deal.

“I have tons of friends who are extremely successful lawyers and lobbyists, staffers on the Hill. They are great at what they do. They are in their late 20s and early 30s,” Andrews says, sipping Ethiopian coffee. Her dog, Miles, is sitting beneath the restaurant table, whining softly.

“But there is loneliness at their jobs, because most likely they are the only black person there and people treat them like they are the only black person there. They dress a certain way. They go out on the weekend. . . . And still they end up going home, and it’s you and your damned dog.”
Talking about a suitor

Andrews is presiding over a table at a chic restaurant, this one in downtown D.C., on a Saturday night. It is the kind of restaurant that is crowded not for the food but for the chance to see and be seen. Crowds are spilling out the door into the darkness of 14th Street. The once-desolate street is filled with beautiful people. Who knew this about Saturday night on 14th Street?

Andrews is speaking with two polished girlfriends, a lawyer and a political staffer, who didn’t want to be named because of their jobs.

“I went on a date last night with Cornrows,” Andrews says, using the nickname that her friends have given the man. “I got in his car and there was this strawberry smell fragrance. I had to roll the window down by hand. I assume it’s paid for.”

Cornrows, she says, seems nice, but that is the problem. “He can put together coherent sentences, but they are not in any way related to my life,” she says. She laughs, but catches herself. She knows the man is trying hard. She also knows Cornrows doesn’t stand a chance.

“I’m a mean woman. I don’t date nice people. That’s why I’ll be alone for the rest of my life. I will always have to settle.”

Staffer: “You need a man in your life. They come in handy for labor.”

Andrews: “He offered to help me move. That was nice.”

Lawyer: “He wasn’t nice to offer. He just wants to get with you.”

Andrews: “I don’t find him attractive. If he was funny, that would go a long way. He could be my winter boo. I need a boo. My life sucks. When your life sucks, a winter boo with his own apartment would be awesome to have.”

What is a winter boo? you ask.

And they explain a winter boo is someone you hook up with when it’s cold outside, someone good enough to take to office holiday parties, someone who has a car and who can drive when the wind is whipping down the sidewalk.

“It’s like a booty call, but it’s not,” Andrews says.

“It’s like you like him enough to bring him out to public settings. They, like, serve a seasonal purpose.”

But what happens in the summer, you ask.

“There is no such thing as a summer boo. You are supposed to be out. Be free.”

The catch?

“A winter boo doesn’t know he’s a winter boo,” until summer comes and he has been set free.
‘Why is she single?’

The genesis of Andrews’s book came from a conversation a few years ago between Andrews and Gina, a social scientist who lives in Los Angeles. They wanted to start a blog to explore “why black women can’t find a man.” The day she talked to an agent about this idea and pitched it as a book, one of her sorority sisters committed suicide.

It jarred Andrews. “We stopped. Discussed what happened. We think each other’s lives are fine. You got a good job. A good place to live. You will handle it.” But some people can’t handle it. “She looked like any other successful black woman,” Andrews says of her friend. , “Good clothes, stylish. Ivy League degree, master’s.” Nobody saw it coming. She won’t discuss the details, but you can see it in her face, the mind racing over the why.

“People keep talking about the black single woman in D.C. But do you know who she is? Does she know what she wants? They should stop saying we have it all together. . . . I am that single black woman in Washington, D.C. Why is she single? This is who I am. Tell me.”

Andrews’ résumé is a snapshot of upward mobility. She graduated from Columbia University, majoring in English literature and creative writing, worked at O Magazine, then went to graduate school for journalism at Northwestern, and in 2005 landed as a news assistant in the New York Times Washington bureau. At the moment, she is not working, but waiting for all the deals to be sealed with the movie.

But there is more. Born in California, grew up on Catalina Island and in Los Angeles. Her mother is a lesbian. She has seen her father once, when she was 6 months old. When Helena was 7, her mother decided to move to Spain, but the girl’s grandmother kidnapped her.

Is this a true story, you ask.

“Yes, it’s my life story.”

Helena’s mother, Frances Vernell Andrews, 57, who lives in Stone Mountain, Ga., says in an interview that it is indeed a true story. When she read the book, “initially it was like walking down memory lane from my child’s perspective. Initially she kept saying, ‘Mommy, you can’t read it. I am not showing it to anyone.’ I had come up to Washington for Thanksgiving two years ago. I went on her laptop and e-mailed some of the chapters and read them when I got home. She didn’t know initially. But I said I needed to know a little bit about what you are putting out there. But I was delighted. She is a terrific writer.”

In the book, Andrews recalls the abduction. And her mother recalls the story, too. “We were on our way to Spain and my mother didn’t feel I should go,” Frances Andrews says. “She wanted me to stay and marry this man. She drove us to the airport and said, ‘Go in and check your bags. The baby can wait.’

“I go in and get my boarding pass. I come out and my mom is gone. I thought she must be circling the block. I waited two hours. Then I gave up and went back to my mom’s home and sat and waited. She came back without my daughter. She said, ‘You need to settle down and stop chasing the world,’ ” says Frances Andrews. “I am a lesbian. My family thought I should not have had a child.”

She promised her mother she would settle down. “Just bring me my child.”

Her mother brought Helena back and Frances left town with her daughter for an island.
All about attitude

Helena Andrews says she is a mean girl. That is where the title of the book comes from.

“It’s much easier if you have a mask, ‘Don’t [expletive] with me.’ Then you don’t have to worry about office politics.” She once asked a colleague, “Why does no one say hi to me in the morning?”

“Because you are a bitch,” the colleague replied.

Andrews wasn’t offended. That is her way of moving through the world. That way you don’t get hurt, you mask any softness or weakness inside.

She doesn’t look like one of those mean girls. Perhaps that is the point. Andrews has that innocent cheerleader, preppy look, even as she strolls her neighborhood of Northeast Washington, with her cute little black pug dog in her arms.

The homeboys on the sidewalk part like a sea to make room for her. A man rolls down the window and asks her to buy him a car. And she smiles. She turns around and smiles again. He has no idea who she is.

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Out of Our Right Minds – Trauma, Depression and the Black Woman, a new documentary by filmmaker and activist Stacey Muhammad – My sistalove Toni Blackman is featured in it!

Happy Thursday!

Yesterday, my sistalove Toni Blackman (www.toniblackman.com) sent me a Facebook link for filmmaker and activist Stacey Muhammad’s new documentary Out of Our Right Minds – Trauma, Depression and the Black Woman.   Click here to watch the trailer on Facebook and Vimeo: Facebook – http://www.facebook.com//video/video.php?comments=&v=193978939222 and Vimeo –  http://www.vimeo.com/8067851.  

Stacey Muhammad, filmmaker and activist from New Orleans

As I watched the film’s trailer and listened to Toni’s words, my spirit reminded me of what it felt like to stand in the slave cells located at Elmina Slave Castle in Cape Coast, Ghana and Goree Island in Senegal.  I remembered the many conversations I have had with my parents and friends about PTSS – Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome.  Muhammad’s film explores PTSS and its impact on the lives of Black women.  Click here for more information: www.wildseedstudios.com.  Join me in supporting Muhammad’s creative efforts with a financial donation.  She uses PayPal on her web site for donations.  It is quick and easy.  So give what you can. I gave a gift of $20.

Enjoy your day and be grateful for all you are and have!

Peace, Creativity, Compassion, Gratitude, and Generosity,

Ananda